本站：我們身邊可能都會有那麼一兩個比較喪的人，怎麼才能更好的和他們相處呢?下面我們一起看看這篇《怎樣與身邊“消極的人”相處》。
在一個理想的世界裏, 我們期待每個與我們交往的人都是積極的, 上進的,善良的,相互關心的和相互支持的……
現實是，我們並不是生活在一個理想的世界裏!
In an ideal world, everyone with whom we interacted would be positive, uplifting, kind and caring and supportive...
but the reality is, we don't live in an ideal world!
更是讓人感到遺憾的是,現實生活中的有些人, 由於種種原因,他們是消極的和困惑的,悲觀的甚至是喜歡搞破壞的。
The sad reality is that some people, for a variety of reasons, are negative and difficult, pessimistic and even disruptive.
如果我們能接受這一現實, 我們應該如何與這些人相處呢? 即使有一些消極事物存在且無法消失，那我們該如何積極面對生活?我們怎麼樣才能不讓他們影響我們拖垮我們呢?
So if we acknowledge this a reality, how can we deal with these people? How can we live positively, despite some negativity? How can we not allow them to drag us down?
和生活中的許多事情一樣, 它並沒有簡單的答案。但也有一些實用的實戰策略, 你會發現大多數情況下以下的方法是有用的，因為這些經過了多年來嘗試和許多人測試得出的結果,
Well, as with many things in life, there are no simple answers. But there are some practical strategies, tried and tested over many years by many people, that you'll almost certainly find useful:
首先, 你要記住你不能控制或改變一切或每一個人。因此, 最重要的是接受這些人和事物
to begin with, remember you can't control or change everything or everyone. Accordingly, it's important to accept that some people will just and what they are
無論何時何地, 只讓他們做他們的事情, 你需要做的是聽或觀察, 不給予任何評語
when and where possible, just let them do their thing and listen or observe, without judgement
儘可能多的,盡你所能保持冷靜(如上所述,我們不能控制別人,但我們可以試着控制自己)
as much as possible, do all you can to stay calm (as noted, we can't control other people but we can try to control ourselves)
在必要時, 當他們做痛苦的或破壞性的事情時儘可能讓自己清楚地知道。當他們真的這樣做了, 我們去關注這個問題不是人
where necessary, let the person know as clearly as you can if/when they're doing something that's distressing or disruptive. When doing so, focus on the issue NOT the person
如果可能的話, 想辦法把困難變成積極的事物。可以這樣做, 例如, 把悲觀主義者的想法作為風險管理的一種形式!
If possible, find ways to turn their difficulty into a positive. Can, for example, that pessimist be used as a form of risk management!
如果有必要,限制你的時間和這個人在一起
If necessary, limit your time with this person
得饒人處且饒人，儘量避免衝突; 記住, 幽默是非常有用的。
Avoid, where ever possible, becoming defensive; and remember, where ever possible and appropriate, that humour can be very useful
最後, 盡你所能地照顧你自己的健康和幸福
and finally, do all you can to take care of your health and wellbeing
這是今天的心理學知識分享。有空可以學習一下, 看看是否可能適用於你。
我希望它能幫助你享受更多的幸福。
So that's today's sharing. Take some time to reflect upon the message and how it might apply to you.
I hope it helps you enjoy some more happiness.
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